What is commitment? Commitment is going through a situation
from the beginning to the end and sticking with it even after it ends. You may
struggle a little or a lot, and that you have learned commitment when you struggle through it to the very end.
What does it mean to give up? Giving up may save you or it
may hurt you, but in the end giving up may give you the strength to get back to situation when you can.
I have committed myself in things like graduating college
with five degrees or being in a relationship until the other person didn’t want
to be with me anymore and was still around for that someone who didn’t even love
me. I have committed myself because I’ve
learned through my parents how to commit first off as a child. I learned commitment through life several
times. I learned it by being with a best friend ever since Kindergarten, being
close to my family member for a long time, being a college student for many
years, and what not. Sometimes we fully
don’t commit because we know something’s missing. You either look for that something elsewhere
because that one thing or person didn’t give you everything. Sometimes I look at my exes and wonder what I
was missing for them to not want me anymore, but I feel that they didn’t know
me or weren’t appreciative of me enough…until I was gone. I was, in fact, a good girlfriend but I
didn’t serve their needs at the time.
Anyways, sometimes being with something or someone is not the right
answer, and sometimes you need to let go and give up, in order to give yourself
or something(one) else your full or partial attention.
You, men or women, may say that you are giving something or
someone your full attention but… are you really? Some of the men in my life, as in “so-called” male
friends have come along and talked to me even when they had girlfriends and
wives. I know I had something that they
wanted or needed because they would say to me that their girlfriend lacked the
things I had. I know... And then I would stop talking to them because
I feel they were doing something wrong because they have said many things like how
beautiful I was and etc, while they got what they needed in talking to me.
Anyways, I do not always commit to whatever I am doing,
because I feel what I needed at the time will not serve me so I stopped doing
whatever it was. I might pick that thing back up or go back to that person about the situation again
and start where I left off whenever I have a chance, or... I may never come back
to it, if I have moved on.
Going back to my illness in 2008, when I had given up on my
career I realized that I had to move on without it. Sometimes life tells you, you don’t need it,
because you have tried your best. And even though I haven’t gotten a career, I
am back on the career path. I’m doing
good, because the situation in giving up taught me to just relax and be
positive. All you need to do is to be
positive and be patient. Take the
opportunities that are good for you and if you don’t, then you don’t, because
there will always be opportunities. When
you are on a path, you will have opportunities coming your way, good and
bad. Those bad opportunities will take
you to other opportunities that may help you in the end or what not, but you
will always learn from everything if you are smart and positive. I’m telling you that you can learn from
everything.
If you've tried your best and the situation doesn't get any better, it's okay to give up and try something else.
Because struggling through a situation until the very end, is commitment; if you
can’t do that, you’re only giving up because you cannot handle the stress, or the pain.
I know what you are feeling, because that pain hurts too
much to be going through with it, so you stop…
It is good sometimes to give up, and sometimes giving up
allows you to have a chance for yourself, which is greatly needed when you are
going into it wholeheartedly, as in doing your best. When it
uses up your time, energy and effort, it is good if you complete yourself first
and prepare yourself for something that takes up your energy and time by giving up.
Don’t be saddened by having to give up. Sometimes you have to, and when the ego is
damaged, it may put you through hard times, but you need to give up in order to
work on your soul. You will have to deal
with it when after you’ve given up, because that’s how you move on. Even though
I say this, your ego doesn’t need stroking, it’s your mind, soul and heart that
need working. Your mind is connected to your heart, the heart is connected to
the soul. Sometimes the mind is disconnected to the heart, and sometimes the
heart is disconnected to the mind and soul, but if you need to stop to get them
to connect, then you would need to do so in order to live a real life being
happy and focused. If you burden
yourself with hardship by struggling through commitment, you must stop and heal
in order to continue, so give yourself a pat on the back, and pause to relax,
breath in and out or to, at last, rest.
Those breaks and gaps is what we need in our society, which
allows us to sleep and to wake up after you’ve slept. There’s so much stress and sleep deprivation
going on, it’s pretty serious. I’m
talking about giving yourself a break from things.
Your body which is connected to your mind, heart, and soul
needs to understand those three things.
Without your body being connect to those things, you can’t go through a
situation that needs commitment, where you struggle. Please rest when you need it.
Okay, I hope you understand…
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