Tuesday, January 24, 2017

The struggle, why we struggle..

Buddha said that life is suffering, meaning he was pessimistic even though he was spiritual and usually won his enemies over.  Buddha does have these thoughts of pessimism because he’s human like us. I speak as though he’s in the presence because he is in the presence.  He’s in the clouds, the river, the pebble in your shoe, and he’s everywhere.  Ha! I put ‘pebble in your shoe,’ because I imagine a pebble in his sandal when he’s walking on his journey to wherever on foot and he's going, “AHhh, this pebble loves me that’s why he’s in my shoe, beautiful pebble, you need not to struggle, please be free, be with the  others like me! I know you, pebble, you love me, too, I am the same as thee…” and then he carefully places the pebble in the river so he could feel the lovely cool water run through it away from the burning sun. 

That pebble is each of us, struggling, tagging along whomever guides him through life.  He is struggling because he does not understand the ‘almighty Buddha’ but is tagging along just to be finally understood or to learn from his ‘teacher.’ 

When you struggle, you are shook up.  You hold on tight but keep your focus.  These obstacles that you experience in your life, test your strength or will, your understanding of things, your preparedness, your attitude toward the experience and etc when you are going over obstacles.  How well you do under pressure tests your true character, your strength and will.  Sometimes it’s so hard that you give up and frail within yourself. 

When you hit rock bottom is when you can look up towards the sky and have hope and faith for yourself.

I have hit rock bottom many times, but what I’ve learned when it comes to situations is that you must ‘accept, deal with it, and move on.’

First, you accept, because all this time you were in denial, not believing what had just happened.  You have to accept in order to deal with it.  Acceptance is key.  A lot of times, people don’t accept what has happened to them, go through their own misery not understanding the situation.  I learn to accept because I was in denial for a long time after I got sick.  Right when I accepted that I could not go back to school and start all over again or start a career, I decided to do something about my misery, moping around on the couch by going back to work after I had recovered from being ill.  I had to deal with my illness in order to move on, so I moped around on the couch in the living room for about two years and finally decided that I had to do something, so I decided to move on.  I kind of moved on and left it behind and only talk about it when I want people to understand and relate, which I am doing now.

These three things helped me get over situations.

These experiences that I have had in the past, allowed me to be appreciative of having to go through them in the past, because it taught me a lot about  how to deal with things and move on.   Whatever you learned from the past teaches you what you should do in other experiences that you may have a chance to go through.  I say “chance” because it is way to understand that you need to go through experiences to learn from life. I had to understand that…without acceptance, I cannot move on.  I needed to come to meaning when it came to acceptance, because the meaning of acceptance is to let go.  Or in order to let go, I had to deal with it secondly.  Many people go through life not dealing with things and when that problem or thing or person shows up, they end up breaking down and crying because they have not dealt with it.

Dealing with it means I had to absorb all of the pain and suffering and sit with it until I was able to no longer have the feelings of misery and hatred for myself.  You go through the process of dealing with things by letting yourself feel the pain in a way, building tolerance so you can get over something else if something was to happen to you again.

So that’s how I moved on from situations, and these situations made me very wise for my age.
People say I am very wise, and Yes, I admit I am.  I am very appreciative of my experiences and I am appreciative of the emotional roller coaster I went through--the anger, the sadness, the crying, the helplessness, because it allowed me to find hope and faith in things.  And Hope and faith is so important, it lets you find that spark to be able to move on or move into the problem of the matter and decipher what you are really dealing with.  You need to understand why and what your situation is, to really learn.

I feel that life is amazing and that it is beautiful because you learn from everything. You learn from movies, books, articles online and offline, cartoons, games, anything.  These things are manmade, in which you do also learn from, that’s why you learn from everything.  There is lesson in your struggles, a lesson that goes unheard and unseen that one day shows up and hits you square in the face, and says “Hey, you learned of me before, now deal with me please…” 

I hope you understand now, that I think my life is amazing because of my shortfalls and everyone has a story.  If you want, please comment here in the comment box about your story and be brave, because the world is listening all time, it’s just that you need to give it attention, love and care.
Please ‘accept, deal with it and try to move on…”


If you can’t move on because you have realized that it was too important to let go, please comment about your story.

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