FACEBOOK, and the superficiality of it

You know who’s caring and loving is my best friend and I.  We both don’t have many friends and we both don’t go out much.  We used to have a lot of friends in our twenties and teens, but there’s so much about us that are alike that we could have been twins.  Anyways, I notice that I don’t get a lot of 'likes' and probably people are not really tuning into what I am saying and writing, but I really don’t know if they are tuning in or not.  Maybe they tuned in and then got turned off or that they don’t have time to read anything I write.  Sometimes they are offended by me because I am totally opposite of them, where I “GET REAL” with people because I believe in myself and is vocal about who I am and what I’m for. 

Some people look at me and go, “HHmmm I didn’t know she was real smart.”  Something inside of them is having this thought as if they’re feeling insignificant to me because they didn’t know what I am capable of doing.  Somehow they are feeling they need to compensate for that by ignoring me and not supporting me in the things I do because they feel I have it in what it takes to be successful or good at something.  Maybe it’s not that, maybe they just want me to click on the “like” button and that they will do the same, just as long I support them.

I’m not about that, getting a lot of “likes” on my facebook, because to me facebook is superficial and addictive.  It’s superficial because these friends usually only support you when they know you don’t go up against them in anyway.  Or maybe they idealize you in superficial ways.  Maybe they like the fact that they want to be you and are supporting you because they idealize you. 

People don’t idealize me but people do look up to me, there's a difference. I do notice that, because when I left facebook back in 2016, there were people who went up to me and said that I made a lot of sense in my posting, meanwhile there were opposition at home, telling me not to get personal on facebook. If these few people are saying that that I make a lot of sense, that there may be others who think that but do not want me to know.

Let me explain to you why I get personal on facebook, is because I want people to not feel alone and I want people to know that I understand and know about your issues.  There are not enough issues about people going through issues with their lover or what not, and people talking about their problems, everyone is acting like they’re happy and everything's fine and danny because they just posted about their brand new fancy purse or went on a fancy trip to Hawaii.

Those things are superficial because facebook makes you go broke because you constantly have to let people know that they should tune in because “LOOK, I have everything you want and that’s why you should support me. Look I have a new pair of Chanel earrings. Look I eat good. Look I just made some fancy, delicious food.”

Someone who used to be in my life, talks very little and yet she has so many friends.  I don’t get it but I do know because when you are not getting vocal about what you think is right and when you are not going up against someone, and just being quiet and saying a few things, all they need is more heads in their photo to show that they have a lot of support in the world on facebook or instagram, it shows they have all the friends and that people love them.

Don’t you feel good when you have so many “likes” on facebook or on Instagram that you feel good that you are doing something right that people tune in and love you.  It shows you have a good, active social life. They may not even love you for god’s sake, just tuning in because everyone else is tuning in.

Just because people tune in and comment on your page a lot does not mean that they fully love you, it just means they support you but not really support you because you have something they want or need.

My best friend and I don’t follow one another on social media, we talk via face to face or texting.  We text everyday, talking about real issues and we are real good friends.  I can tell her anything and she understands me.  Do you really want all of these friends who are superficial with you supporting you or do you really have a real good friend or two who you can run to about stuff.

Honestly I am a real good person and I like to talk about real issues.  People always say I make a lot of sense and are right about a lot of things.  I am intelligent and I am caring and loving but yet I don’t have many friends.  To have all of those friends, means you constantly need to be cool and fresh and have money because hanging out with your friends means you’re going to go broke or going to spend a lot.

There are some people who like me as a person because I know they support me and are nice to me and I am nice back to them. 

You’re probably like “Bitch, you don’t know what you’re saying and you wish you had my life with this many friends..”  I’m like, “Bitch, I have a good friend whom I tell everything to and I am too happy to be wanting your life.”  I don’t want to be anyone; I just want to be “ME.” I am happy with myself and I am inquisitive, that’s why I question things in my life.

These are my thoughts...

Okay, have a good night…